I hear you when you say...look around everything we have is brought to us by truck. I am so proud of my trucker!
I find myself being so much more aware of trucks on the road, my heart goes out to them and there family.
I make sure my trucker comes home to a peaceful place with a great meal and knows he is loved. :)
Mar 26, 2010 Rating
So i'm not crazy after all! by: Anna in the north
My hubby has been a trucker for almost 4 years now. For a while long distance hauling, and that was hard. He came home every so often, slept a few hours and was gone before we could even talk, but he was in training.
I knew the road well where he drove and its a rough road, sharp corners, blind areas, and when it snows.... well, yeah, it's blinding.
Before he became a trucker, i didn't have much appreciation for those big diesels on the road. Now I find myself horrified at the habits of the smaller vehicles and I pray every day that those are the ones who are going to be more careful.
Heard of many women who have lost their men to some freak accident on the highway. That hit home the most when i got a call one day when my own sweetheart hit the ditch, blinding snow and all, hooked a sharp dip on the side of the road and down she went.
My world stood still until I held him again. So my heart goes out to you girl for the trip you took with your man, and i totally agree with giving the man what he needs at home.
Enjoy every minute you got with them when they're there... okay *the occasional argument can be made up :) *
Have yourself a great weekend!
Jan 22, 2009 Rating
Thanks Manda by: Jennifer Schnittker
Thank you so much for your comment.
I am going to email Crazy, and see what we can do to come up with some idea's for a "support group."
It seems more and more are checking in. It is wonderful to meet people that are going through--and understand exactly what it is, that we are going through.
Look for updates
Jen
Dec 23, 2008 Rating
truckerdrivers wife by: Manda
hi Jennifer, I really enjoyed your story.My husband has been a truck driver for the last 5yrs. and I'm very proud of my hubby and understand we're your coming from I cried for almost two weeks off and on when he first left just for orientation.
We have three children 13,11,10 and I couldn't get past how we'd make it without him. My Husband had always been the life of the party {to say the least} around our home, the thought of him not being home for days at a time drove me crazy.
I too have gotten use to it ,but all the same it's still can be hard more so for our oldest son but they know daddy is doing what he has to pay the bills and keep food on the table, plus he enjoys it all except from being away from the kids and me.
There are so many good husbands out there just trying to make a honest living. I believe it can be just as hard if not harder on the trucker driver himself leaving his family forever how long he/she may be gone.
I just always pray for his safe return every time he walks out door and make sure I tell him how much I love him.It's hard no doubt having a husband as a truck driver, but for all that they do I'm very grateful.
So to each Truck Driver and his wife {husband} may you too have a Happy Holiday and a safe return each and every time,
Manda
Oct 16, 2008 Rating
Contributing to the site by: The Crazy Trucker
Hi Jennifer,
I just read comment about contributing. I have some ideas to run across you ladies, I will try to finish up early tonite and get back with you. There are definitely somethings that could be done make you guys input more visible.
Yall just have to bear with me for a second (Don't forget I am still driving LOL)
I may get done early today. (Early is 6 o'clock) Got done early yesterday but I had to find out where the debate was showing.
Talk to yous guys later
Hervy
Oct 15, 2008 Rating
Its Julie again by: Anonymous
I just want to say that I think this web site is amazing and I am so glad I can be part of these stories on here, I am very proud to be a truckers wife and a lot of women or men do have a hard time dealing with their spouse being or becoming a truck driver. Even though my husband has been doing this for many many years I still miss him and worry about him badly. If there is any women or men out there that need to talk about there partner becoming or being a driver and would like to talk visit me here .........but hang in there and being a truck drivers spouse really does work out.......hope to talk to any of you soon.......thanks JULIE
Oct 15, 2008 Rating
Truckers Wives Chat room & more!! by: Jennifer Schnittker
That would be awesome, for now We'll meet at the trucker wives forums It would be nice though--I know I replied to another woman who's husband was just considering it. But even if we could do something (Julie and I) to man your "wives" room would be awesome, a chat room is only good while both parties are there ;)
Anyway, I do like your site. It is very informative, the only information I did not find on here is "average daily cost" to drivers. I did find it on the IRS page. That being Jan-Sept, you are allowed to claim 41.00 a day, and Oct-Dec 52.00 a day. This year you are allowed to claim 80% of that on taxes. (this of course is just the allowance for meals) That does not take into consideration- Tolls (which some companies have passes for toll roads-others reimburse--yet others refuse to allow you to use them, so if you do take them, it is out of your pocket). Showers, Laundry ect. that you men/women need to do while on the road.
I have spent killer hours investigating everything from how a driver can fight companies that do not allow you your 10 hours down time,mostly by actually calling and talking to FMCA, how your logs work. For example (I know you already know this Crazy- but your "birth time" is not to be split. But most companies will try to push more out of you.Trying to get you in your down time waiting to actually be loaded, to say you were sleeping.) Anyway, I am such a pro-active person in anything that my husband does. My family for that matter- in 10 months I have become a truck driver advocate. Hey when I stand behind my man, it is NOT just because he is bringin' home the bacon so to speak. You have a hard job, and one that we all depend on greatly--although we never give a thought to it.
Sorry about that rampage, anyway lol. I being a "single wife" am online all the time, just as men get lonely on the road, so do we at home. If you can think of something that I can do to help you with your site, I would love to do so. I have told Keith about it, and cannot wait to introduce him to it.
Jennifer
Oct 15, 2008 Rating
Welcome Trucker's Wives! by: The Crazy Trucker
Hello ladies,
well anonymous took the words out of my mouth!
WOW!
Well put entry and much appreciated. I know both of your husbands should be very happy with the choice they made in you ladies.
Julie you were the first to write on here at a trucker's wife and your writing is what got me off my but to do the trucker's wife page when I did but I forgot to transfer your writing to this page.
I will do that as soon as I finish.
Jennifer (LOL) you are not lost, this is just a considerably new page on the site and you 2 have the only entries right now.
I am glad to have you ladies as visitors and hope you will come back often. I think a lot of new trucker's wives can definitely benefit from your wisdom and understanding about relationships and growth specifically in dealing with being as I've seen called a "Single-Wife".
I will be doing something real soon about facilitating better communication between you all.
How about a chat-room?
Oct 14, 2008 Rating
I totally agree by: Anonymous
I totally understand where you are coming from....my husband is also a trucker and has been gone pretty much all of our marriage and we to have 5 kids. And it is sometimes hard to deal with the day to day activities. And I do honestly agree with you about giving him a clean house warm meal and a great attitude at home.
I to have written a story on here. It is title..I am not a driver, but I am a drivers wife, if you would like to read it. Well I will go for now....tell your driver to be careful out there and you keep your head up high....it is amazing to be a TRUCKERS WIFE.........Julie
Oct 14, 2008 Rating
Wow!!!!!!!!!! by: Anonymous
After being on the road for almost 30 years and still married to the same woman, all I have to say is you are one wise woman, and a rare one in this day and age indeed.
