Starting over with a guy who is always around

by Kelly
(Lorain ohio)

Ok ladies I hope it's ok to post this here I have posted here before when I was in a relationship with a otr trucker. I ended this 61/2 yr relationship over a yr ago.

I am now in a relationship with someone new ( not a trucker) and although I dont miss the ex at all I find myself missing my time for myself.

My ex was only home for 2 to 3 days every month honestly I really didnt get lonely bcuz I worked had friends and family and I was a lot happier by myself bcuz he beat me.

Now my guy is home every day and i still work. I love him so much and enjoy having him home every night but I dont seem to ever have the time that I need for me to dye my hair do my nails so on and so forth.

Also I went from doing everything by myself to a situation where we go everywhere together. Again I love him and i enjoy him being around but i also value my time alone.

What can i do to get my own time?

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Jul 19, 2020
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Getting Your Space
by: Hervy

Since you first posted when you were with a trucker, I will allow the post. Hopefully someone can help you out.

As a man, I would say better to communicate the fact that you value personal space and to what extent early.

More importantly, pay attention to the guy's personality. If he is clingy and not supportive of your need for independence, decide if it is something you are willing to compromise on or will it make you miserable.

Women tend to believe they can change who a man is. It's possible if he is open minded, understanding and values personal development.

If he is closed minded and/or doesn't believe in self improvement, then he will likely believe that he shouldn't change who he is. (Like many people both men and women) He might not even be willing to try and see things from your perspective. (Like many people)

So bottom line...it's more about evaluating who he is and is level of personal development than anything else.

With the right type of guy, you can each try to understand each other's needs and build on the relationship.

Glad you got out of that abusive relationship.

And you didn't use the term, but if this guy is clingy and gets angry or jealous about you wanting free time away from him and/or pursuing your own interest, it's a warning sign that might also be a flag to what could become an abusive relationship.

So pay attention.

Also, you might want to self evaluate to make sure you didn't get in this relationship too soon before completely healing from the last one. Just something to think about.

Because lots of people do that without realizing it.

Best of luck.

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