Overwhelmed by being a truckers wife...
(New Hampshire )
My husband and I have been together for 13 1/2 years and married for 10 1/2. We have a 7 year old son, who is extremely active and strong willed. Having to hold down the home front is not completely new to me.
A year after we were together (and just moved in together) he was deployed to Iraq with our local National Guard. He was gone 18 months. But for the past 10 years I have had him home every single night. That was until he lost his job and decided to fulfil his dream of getting his CDL and driving truck. I wasn't thrilled with the idea, but was not going to stand in the way of his dream, as he has never held me back from mine.
He got a job right out of school with a local company, driving regionally. He is gone most of the week, and home on weekends. I get that for most truck driver wives this is a dream come true, as lots of drivers are gone for weeks at a time. However, my issue is when he is home. He is not really here. He is on his video games or talking on his phone with buddies that are OTR drivers.
I get his buddies are lonely and trying to stay connected but I need him truely home when he is here. Body and mind. He doesn't help with much when he is home either. He says that he is not home to make the mess or dirty the laundry so why should he help do it.
Well I work full time as well. And I do as much as I can while he is gone, but I can't do everything all of the time. Sometimes something has to give. As we have almost no support system where we live. All the family has moved to warmer climates. I have tried to talk to him about it and things seem to get better for a short time, but then falls right back into the same old pattern.
Am I the only one that experiences this?? Am I asking to much of him??? And to make matters worse he might be switching companies!! To one that pays better, but will have him gone even more. I would really like to figure it all out before he takes his new position.