Not sure how to bring up the subject of ask him to quit his OTR trucking job
I am a woman whose husband has been OTR for about 8 months now. After reading so many heartbreaking stories from others like me, I know I'm not alone in dealing with the pain and suffering of living without him.
We have been everything to each other since meeting many years ago. We are each others best friend, confidant, support person, and greatest love.
I have found myself falling deeper and deeper into depression every time he has to leave. We don't have children and we live in an area without close friends to turn to in times of loneliness.
Basically I go to work during the day and come home to an empty house where the silence is deafening.
I've tried making new friends through meet-up groups, social networking, church, etc., but it never seems to take. So many people are busy with their own lives, kids, husbands, and careers, that making new friends doesn't seem to be a priority for them.
For the past several months I've been dealing with some pretty serious health issues which has made the depression even worse. I become overwhelmingly afraid of being alone when not feeling well.
I usually reach out to my husband at that time which is difficult for him as well. He feels terrible being away when I need him most.
Financially we are in pretty good shape. I'd really like him to quit his trucking job and find something locally, but I don't know how to bring up the subject without sounding completely and utterly selfish.
I've rarely had trouble talking to him about any subject, but this time I'm at a loss. My medical issues could easily take my life at any time and it breaks my heart to think of spending so much time apart in what may be the last years of our lives together.
Has anyone else had a similar experience in asking their husband to quit trucking? How did you bring it up? How did he react? What was the ultimate outcome?