Nic the Loving Wife
by Nicole Marie "Soon to Be" Myers
(Lakewood, CA, USA)
So I'm not technically a truckers "wife" but in less than 80 days I will be. We have been together three-ish years, kind of.
When we first met I was 19, and it was supposed to be "romantic"... boy did that bubble burst FAST! It's not "romantic" or "easy" or even "Enjoyable" most of the time.
Its lonely, and hard, and it can be depressing. It is soo much harder than I thought it was going to be!
But its also completely worth it. My man, he is amazing. He's so sweet and caring that sometimes I forget just how hard it can be. I love him. On April 6th, 2013 we will be married and than I will be a real "Trucker's Wife".
When we first got together I couldn't take the separation. and for that first 8 months, I saw him ten times, tops. I couldn't take it, I broke up with him.
I was 21 before I was able to track him down again, and for the time we were apart I NEVER stopped thinking about him, or about how wrong I was to give up so easily even though he was my world, even then.
I found him again, actually tracked him down through his brother.... That was the MOST awkward conversation I have ever had to this day. He had been in Missouri for 6 months at that point. two months of talking, online and on the phone, later, I payed for him to get back to CA, with me. Once he was back he didn't leave my side for 8 months.
In that 8 months everything changed. He asked me to marry him, I (of course) said yes. I found a job, it doesn't pay all that great though and we were living off $60 a week, and not putting anything away. I didn't want him to go out on the road again, I was afraid I would be weak.
I'm still afraid of becoming weak again. It's hard, but I love him, so I'm powering through. We talk as often as possible, although he drives nights, and I work days. I have been getting more hours, taking some of the strain off of him, in terms of money.
Don't get me wrong, I miss him something fierce, and I would do just about anything to get to be able to see him everyday (short of learning to drive a truck, I'm barley able to handle a Camry, NO ONE wants me in a big rig and driving) but I'm staying strong, and looking for support where I can get it.
My family, his family, our friends, and now here.