New Relationship with a OTR driver

by BigTruckGirl
(maryland)

So I met this wonderful guy on a dating website and he's a OTR driver. We have only known each other for about 2 weeks but we fell madly in love over the phone and he has surprised me at my job 2 times in those 2 weeks as he's driving through.

we are already talking about getting a place together and getting married and I truly believe I love this man.(I have been married before and know how I don't want to be treated and what love is)

I know this all sounds good and I hope it continues this way however I do have my doubts. I know I can be a faithful girlfriend/wife and since we talk constantly on the phone I doubt he would do anything while on the road.

My problem is he has 3 kids with 2 different girls and we have talked briefly about his relationship with his kids and his baby mommas but I still want to be really cautious.

I'm afraid I will be just another baby momma or that when the newness of our relationship wears off that we wont get to see each other when he is home.

I don't want to be selfish I know he has kids and having a son myself I know its important for him to have a good relationship with his kids I would never want to take that away from him but on the other hand I want to be selfish and say I want your time.

We have been very open and honest with each other in the past 2 weeks and talked about all of this but I need something to calm my nerves and tell me that this will work. I try to have the attitude that if its meant to be then it will be but its still hard since we cant see each other as much as I'd like.

So far we have or I should say I have been handling it well knowing he is out there making money so we can have a life together. We have even made plans for me to go on the road for a weekend.

I know there will be trying times, like when I want him home for a family event or just need a hug from my sexy truck driver:) any advice for me ladies?

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May 03, 2018
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by: Anonymous

Well???!!! I'm just wondering what happened here now that it's been two years. I was with a man who decided to be a trucker and our relationship fell apart. I see now that he's not good at getting past the "new and shiny" and can't form true emotional bonds with me or his son who he also left to go out on the road. I suspect the man here with children by two baby mommas is good at the new romance and excitement, but doesn't know how to dig in deep and have a true meaningful relationship.

Apr 18, 2016
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by: Stacy

Hi there,

I posted about 4-6 months ago and guess what? Ray and I are still together 11.5 months later. We now live together and I'm getting ready to go otr with him.

It can and does work, you just have to be able to spend a lot of time alone. I work full time so I only have 3 hours per night at home anyway before bed time so seeing him 2 days a week is just like our weekends together.

I'm curious if you all are still together.

Stacy Kment

Sep 17, 2015
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by: Stacy

Hi Big Truck Girl,

I met my Boyfriend Ray on match.com back in May. He is home on his reset every week. While it isn't easy because the days he is home I'm working but we usually have 2 evenings together.

We met online on May 2nd and for 3 days we calculated we were on the phone for 30 hours in 3 days. I took notes, and when he told me of his divorce I confirmed with the courts website and research that I did that what he told me was true. Keep in mind that if you do this in the beginning and everything he says is true then you have something to go on unless he proves you wrong. There are good men out there and let me tell you, do I worry that my boyfriend is may do something wrong? Sometimes if I don't hear from him for 3-4 hours crazy things go through my mind, but I don't let that consume me. I trust him until he proves me wrong.

We are now 4 months into our relationship and we recently moved in together and things are great. He is working on trying to get home on the weekends instead of weekdays and he is always really good to me.

Don't listen to people, use your womanly instinct.

I'm here anytime to chat!

Jul 29, 2015
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Follow your heart NEW
by: Tonya

If this guy wasn't true to you he would never have introduced you to his family. I have met the most wonderful man yes on a dating site and he is a new truck driver. We now live together and he treats me better than any man I have been with. Dont believe all the negative crap you read. Yes there are players out there. That's true but there are also good men who just happen to drive truck. Go slow, have high standards and make him commit to you. My boyfriend left otr and went to driving local so he is home more often. Go with your gut and your heart!!! There are good men out there. There not all bad. NOT all players.



Nov 05, 2013
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by: T

Didn't mean to be a downer and hey...if it's working for you great! I honestly don't have any other ideas other than what you are doing to stay in touch. It's very hard all the way around but bottom line is if you have trust in your relationship on both sides you'll be just fine.
Best wishes to you both!

Nov 05, 2013
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by: BigTruckGirl

Just wanted to Give an Update and clarify some things. I have been dating him at the time I wrote this for 2 weeks but we had "known" each other longer and talking for a while. I have met his family and they were very welcoming and glad he found someone who will stick by him and deal witht he crazy schedule. I know what you guys are saying how in the beginning everything is roses and sunshine but I'm not a child I know that, that phase fades away and I don't think its always going to be easy and I know truck drivers have a bad rep. What I'm wondering is where the happily married wives are at and why they aren't commenting and telling me to stick by my man while being cautious but to follow my heart and fall in love. I'm not going to judge one wonderful guy on the bad reps that many others have given truck drivers. I am fully aware that you ladies may be right in the end and I will get hurt but I'm choosing to trust him and follow my heart. I was looking on advice on ways to keep our relationship close even though we cant be physically together. I have found a few like writing little notes for him to read when he's out on the road and random texts and phone calls. but we are still on the phone almost 24/7. we take pictures throughout the day of our lives to share with eachother. I just wanted to know if anyone had other ideas of ways we can stay close or grow closer while he's away. sorry to rant I know I asked for advice and you ladies are looking out for me. I appreciate the advice and I will continue to be cautious. I just wanted to find a sisterhood on here :)

Nov 03, 2013
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by: Anonymous

You say you & him have known each other for 2 weeks & fell in love over the phone! Sounds more like infatuation than love! You also mention about being a faithful girlfriend! Who says he is being faithful? You know if he is cheating, he will never tell you & if you catch an STD from him & you get the symptoms after he goes back on the road, you know he will accuse you of being untrue to him! So I would run & try to get a better catch if a boyfriend that is not an OTR driver! Good luck!

Oct 25, 2013
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Agree 110% with other commenters NEW
by: T

Girl!!!!!
Listen...this is a new relationship and they are most often stars and roses at the beginning.
2 red flags...you met him online(how do you know for sure you are not the "other woman") and the other...he is going to have baby mamam drama.
Trust me when I tell you that will be a lifetime of hell.
Not saying you have to break it off with him but please do yourself a HUGE favor and just date this guy. Don't move in or get married at least for a year. That way then you'll have time to really see what's going on in his life.

Oct 25, 2013
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by: lynn

Well I can tell you that if you met him online just make sure you are not just the girlfriend on the road as many truckers lie and say they are not married and offer you the world only to find out later that they ARE married and do not want to leave their wife just needed some play time. Been there and trust me I do not trust a truck driver at all and never will again. My husband found a women on the road and told her that he wanted to get closer to her all the while I am at home. I was a good wife I would cook clean mow lawns I did it all so that when he came home all he had to do was spend time with me. But all he did do was sleep why cause he was tired because he had stopped to visit the other women and then had to drive all night to get home.. Be very afraid my friend as if it sounds to good to be true that is because it is.

Oct 25, 2013
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by: Anonymous

Run. Run as fast as you can away from this situation. Im not being heartless or unfeeling. Been there, got the scars. Please take my advice.

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