my husbands crazy ex

by elizabeth
(hamilton)

when i met my now husband he still had an ex girlfriend living at his house. things were over between them he said...i didnt find out about all this crap till later in the realtionship.at the urging of his kids he finally filled me in and of course i was pissed to the extreme..we were only engaged at the time but after many tears and soul searching i decided to go thru with the marriage because what was good between us outweighed the bad...she moved out right before i moved in and she literally cleaned him out...but things didnt stop there..she got the phone numbers of my family members and trashed him up one side and down the other...she would call our house and hang up and we also found out she had the neighbors spying on us!!! talk about sick freaks...well it gets even better than that..

one afternoon after grocery shopping she confronted me in the parking lot of the store..i couldnt believe my husband had ever been interested in this dog but he stayed with her for ten years!!! she kept turning the tears on and off like a faucet and of course i didnt believe anything she had to say..but the problem is she filled my head with stories about what he may or may not be doing out on the road while hes gone...

i am adopted and still have some lingering abandonment issues..well he kept calling that night and i wouldnt answer the phone because i was so angry and i wanted to see his reaction in person to her comments..

we had it out right there in the kitchen and to this day that conversation still haunts me..how do i let it all go? how do i let her go? he gives me full access to his phone and his log books but because my first husband cheated there is always that nagging doubt in the back of my mind!!!

do you guys trust your hubby 100% and if so how do you do it? there is also a 21 year age gap between us and he is always asking if im going to trade him in on a newer model...

how do we let our crazy insecurities go so he can do a good job out on the road and not worry about me and i can do my job at home which is being a good loving and trusting wife...