Married to a selfish trucker
(Chicago, IL, United States)
My husband and I are both 24 and have been married for two years, he is also an otr trucker gone Monday trough Friday and home on the weekends.
I'm usually really excited to see him on the weekends and will try to plan a nice Friday evening or a chill weekend and he will want to spend as much time as possible with his friends.
He will invite them into our plans, or make new plans and won't tell me. Sometimes he's even sabotaged our plans and go be with his boys. He doesn't know how to have an argument and during one he'll get upset and go hang out with his friends and won't talk to me until after midnight, but he'll come home and want to have sex with me.
When I bring it up he gets upset and says that he shouldn't have to choose between me or his friends, he should be able to hang out with both of us the same. He tells me to make him a schedule for when I want to hang out with him.
He does whatever he wants whenever he wants with no regard to me and than he'll leave on Monday and be gone all week and I'm stick with my anger and loneliness.
I just don't know what to do anymore, I love him and want to support him but I feel like he doesn't support me, he doesn't understand how lonely I am and doesn't seem to care.