Life around a trucker really sucks!!!!
I am not married to a trucker but am a sister to one that is married to a trucker & on my end my sister & her two small kids are living in hell & living a nightmare.
Before my brother-in-law took this job, he was a funny guy & one that you would love to be around.
I have noticed transformations in him since he has been doing trucking now for a year & I brought it up to my sister & she said yes she, too, has noticed the changes in him & she does not have the money or financial resources to pay for marital counseling.
In September when he had home time, he got irritated with the kids, which he never did before.
In November when he was home for Thanksgiving, he was holding his temper in because I noticed he was quiet, which he is very vocal.
Home for Christmas, he was fine. I think he didn't want to ruin anyone's Christmas. When he was home in later January for a few days, he started a verbal fight with my sister, then he calls me on the phone & chews me out for no apparent reason & none of us gave any provocation to get him started.
While I watched my sister's kids when him & her went to the supermarket, he was blowing up at this & that & even called the cashier a c**t because she forgot to put his orange juice in the bag.
When they got out into the car, my sister told me that she told him that was not necessary & let's talk about what's going on so I can help you through this & he snapped at her & said there's nothing wrong or going on, you are just imagining these things going on!
And he has told her many times that her friends are dumb & stupid (most of them have professional jobs like one is a registered nurse & the other is a nurse practitioner & another is a paralegal, but a few of them are stay-at-home moms like she is.
So on a social media site that both him & her are members, my sister noticed something one of his trucker friends did & said & she then told him now who is the dumb one & oh boy he got very defensive with her, did not return her phone calls or texts for a whole week.
The only reason he returned her calls is when she noticed he was posting how much of a great guy he is & how much he loves his family & of course everyone that clicked like or added a comment was his trucker friends.
Are there other wives or girlfriends of truckers going through this? I told my sister that it sounds like to me that his "family" is not her & the kids but the other truckers that he is talking to like in truck stops, etc. & it's possible he could be sleeping with someone which she has been suspecting but has no proof!
Any positive comments or advice would be greatly appreciated because as I said earlier, she does not have the money or the financial resources for marital counseling because I know his pay depends on the loads he gets!
But also the reason I am posting this is because I, too, am affected by his personality & transformations, that it makes me want to deck him but he is not worth going to jail over!