If you think a trucker is tough you should meet his wife!
Well, I must admit it depends on what day it is. Being married to a trucker has its ups and downs just like anything else.
I raised two son's with my husband on the road over half their lives. It was tough and it is a lot of responsibility. Some days I just wanted to quit being the caregiver and be taken care of. And that for me is the hard part.
My son's are both gone now, one has been gone for 4 years and the other just graduated from Marine boot camp. They are 23 and 21. So I now have an empty nest.
I have been needing a little attention on the weekends but he drives so hard during the week he is exhausted when he gets home on Friday. While I understand and I am a good wife sometimes I just want it to be about me.....
But I also now I have been with this man for 20 years and if it hasn't happened yet it isn't going to happen.
My husband became a trucker after we had been together for ten years. It was not something I married into but something that just happened because there were no jobs for him.
My dad is a truck driver as well as his so we both new what we were getting into but it's different to be married to a truck driver then to have your dad be one.
I watched my mom for years raise five children on her own and completely take care of our home so at least I knew what I was doing when it became my turn to be married to a truck driver.
I stay busy when he is gone, it's kind of weird but when I do feel lonely it's when he is home. I guess it's because he is there and it's like he is not because sometime's he just sits in his chair and drinks some well deserved beers.
Now don't get me wrong it is not like that all the time. I have a great husband, and he does show his appreciation a lot. He is not perfect though as he is a man! LOL!
He is faithful and he helps around the house when he is home. He mows and helps with laundry and stuff like that. But I only really get him one day a week. You figure he get's home on Friday night and then Sunday we spend half the day getting him ready to leave on Monday morning.
During certain times of the year he is gone from Sunday till Friday, but that only last's about five months. Then during harvest he is home every night but he usually don't get home till ten or so and I work also so I am usually going to bed at that time and he pretty much works four week's straight no day's off during harvest. It's tough too!
I know why my husband drives a truck. It's not to be away from home but it is the only way we could put our son through college and send our other son to Europe. He did it for the boy's which makes it a lot easier to deal with as I have positive things to say to myself when I get to feeling blue.
It really isn't different then any other thing you deal with in life, it is all about your attitude and thinking. Sometimes it's nice and sometimes it sucks. I just deal with what ever when ever!!!!!