I hate every second of it. i am an OTR truckers wife. and its horrible.

by Kryssy
(Ohio)

Me and my husband agreed he could drive otr because i was told and PROMISED repeatedly that he would be home EVERY WEEKEND! SOOO not the freaking case.

So while he is out partying it up with family and friends all over the USA (He has friends all over this country and family) i am stuck here taking care of my son and my house and I am in the military so im fighting to find sitters for those drill weekends when i have to go away.

His family doesn't like me so since he's not here anymore EVER they wont freakin help me with him. i have a 3 week training period coming up and dont have a sitter because his family is full of jerk offs. excuse my french. my husband has told me 3 times he would be home this weekend and was suposed to be home yesterday and wasn't. then today. and isn't. then tomorrow morning and once again... is NOT going to be.

He claims he doesn't have enough available hours to drive to Ohio from Tn. which is total BULL. He told me he has 14 available hours. last time i checked it only took freakin 10 n a half hours MAYBE 11 to get here. so i'm assuming he either just doesn't wanna be home or he is cheating and gonna go get his road girlfriend. So my advice to girls who's bf's or husbands or WHATEVER the guy is to you, wants to be a trucker especially OTR tell him NOOOO because it will ruin your relationship.

I am only 21 he is only 22 and we did have a good relationship but now its nothing but fighting and hang ups on calls and frustration. we cant stand each other and i dont know if i even WANT to see him anymore.

he has also changed a lot. he is more of an ASS when he is here. always telling me what to do and that i should clean this or that and not appreciating any of the stuff i do around here. nothings EVER good enough. he is a different person and i def see divorce very soon. so FYI if you actually LIKE your relationship. i wouldn't do this. you probably wont last.

i supported him and supported and supported him some more. and i've got nothing but a slap in the face for doing it. its not worth it and you dont really get much money. he only makes about 500 or 600 a week no different from a stupid factory job. and your spouse will NEVER be home and you may as well consider yourself single or in my case a single married mom.

its pointless!!!

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Jun 02, 2014
Stop whining NEW
by: Anonymous

and take of things yourself. Damn if I had you for a wife I'd find a girlfriend too.

Shut up and just do it whiny pants

Aug 12, 2012
I have to agree NEW
by: Anonymous

I am a truckers wife as well and do not like it one bit. We did allot of research prior to this career move and went into thus with eyes wide open. What I did not expect that even though requests to be home were made in more than enough time they were ignored and special events were missed and feelings hurt not only mine but our kids and family. Then he started to change, behaviors such as cussing wise than a sailor (dropping f bombs all over) and he used to deplore that, drinking heavily, ignoring me and or kids, lying and then the ultimate he totally trashed or wedding vows and had an affair with a whore. I am not a young woman so this cannot be blamed on young love, we have been married for well over 20 years, very good years at that. I was supportive of his being a trucker all the way up to the point he picked up with the slut. I made sure that he had all the comforts of home in his truck and home made meals. Something happens to skit of men when they go out on the road, they seem to lose their common sense and morals because they do not feel they will get caught. I have also road with my husband many times for lengths of time and saw thus behavior routinely and cried thinking about the women during at home holding down the fort, being both mom, dad, friend. I was devastated when I discovered I was one of those women.

Do not compare a trucker to a member of the military as there is no comparison!

P.S. We are trying to work out our issues and save our marriage of 20 plus years and he did the right thing and quit being a trucker. I personally do not feel otr driver and marriage are good companions.

Nov 22, 2011
it dose sux NEW
by: connery

I drove for 4 yrs an my ex wife pushed me to drive an 6mo into driveing I heard that I wasent giveing enough money home an I dident care about her or my daughter anymore it is a tough life an that's why I no longer do it not cause I can't handle it just or don't like it I'm to loveing to leave the people I love and I'm close to if that's how you feel get out I left my job for her an she left me. Much love to ya. Your friend connery

May 02, 2011
I truly understand you
by: Anonymous

I have been married to a OTR truck driver for 8 years we have 2 + children and I treated him like a king when he came home I really did. I believed he was different heard so many stories of truckers ugly ones it was scary , and i thought mines would never do that but guess what i was so freaking wrong he was just another rotten aple in the bag , my husband bought a touch screen cell and he didnt understand it well hardly knew how to use it so he started callin me not knowing he was ...well i started hearing all kinda of weird stuff women talkin , music at clubs i even heard him askin a woman for a lap dance and then more i would question him and he say i was crazy he would never do that he swear on our kids lives and everything crazy right , this past easter he made the same mistake after promising me we gonna start all over and make this marriage work not just for the children but because we love each other my phone rings there he was talkin to his helper tellin him to go for a while and take his time i heard him honk heard a knock on the door heard his conversacion wit a female he even talked about our marriage then came the most heart breaking moment i heard my husband having sex with that female writing about it still makes me sick...he was coming home the next morning WTF .well now im getting divorced ask him to choose his job or us and he picked his job wish he wouldve been true to me and if he had quit loving me or caring about me he wouldve told me . well your young if he is not making you happy move on you have a whole ife ahead of you do what makes you happy and whats best for your child . take care god bless you contact me if u like . now my husband is making me all kinds of promises got on his knees begged me to stay he says he loves me oh well just another lie ...guess its easier to find a woman than to get another job .

Apr 27, 2011
WOW
by: Carrie

Kryssy, you are so negative, and so full of anger & resentment, I find your vent almost offensive. My hubby is OTR & we have an amazing marriage. It is possible to have a great relationship with a truck driver. But obviously you & your hubby have some major relationship issues. Life on the road isn't partying & living it up. Neither is life at home. I seriously think the only hope of overcomming your anger & resentment towards him, and his with you is some serious couples counceling. Or the marriage needs to go. The kind of negative behavior you are displaying, (and maybe the hubby too) is doing a total disservice to your child. Parents are the foundation, what kind of life skills, and coping skills is this child being taught by seeing and hearing such negativity. You sound like an unhappy woman & it's up to YOU to take action & chnge that.

Apr 16, 2011
Agree, the life is not for everyone
by: Anonymous

As a former lady truck driver (and yes, a pretty one) and the current wife of an OTR trucker I will tell you life on the road is hard but it is just as hard being away from the ones you love. You are young, and young love is always the hardest to make last. It sounds like you have little help from his family, but that is not his fault. Unfortunately he does have very strict laws to follow by law he can only drive 11 hours in a 14 hour period then he must take a 10 hour break. Not only that he is at the mercy of his fleet manager/dispatcher with the loads they give him as well as the mercy of the shippers and receivers. If the fleet manager/dispatcher gives him a load that is further away or that can only load/unload at a certain time that will delay him getting home. If the shipper or receiver is slow to load/unload that will cause a delay too...and trust me, I have waited at places 18 hours and couldn't do a damned thing about it. As a driver I had friends all over the country too, but I seldom had time to stop and party as you'd like to think. If I ever had a chance to meet with a friend it was never for longer than a hot meal and a cup of coffee at a truck stop. It sounds to me like you both are feeling very lonely and frustrated and have trust issues. You have a different view of how things are on the road than they really are and he is feeling under-appreciated because you complain when you talk to him on the phone, yet he does the same thing to you when he comes home. He gives up a lot too...good home cooked meals, a hot shower, his own bed, changing from clothes to pjs to sleep, being able use the bathroom anytime and so much we fail to forget. Remember...I've been on both sides of the fence here;) If you are thinking the relationship is over it may be too late to save it...but with some work, good communication where you listen don't yell and never call each other names, and a renewed trust...you might be able to save your relationship and let that little one of yours have a real family. What ever you decide to do, good luck, I wish you the best <3

Apr 16, 2011
the life is NOT for everyone.
by: Anonymous

Being a truckers wife/girlfriend/partner is the HARDEST and most REWARDING job in the world. I have been with my driver for almost 8 years now and i absolutely love it! Just like with every other relationship in the world, there are ups and downs. It's how you adjust and overcome that makes it different. My heart really goes out to you for seeing such a negative aspect on such a beautiful thing. I've always viewed being an OTR driver like being in the military. Would you expect your husband to talk to you like that if you were deployed? By being in the military you should definately understand what he is going through. HE IS DOING A GREAT SERVICE FOR HIS COUNTRY! With no disrespect and a whole lot of tough love, i would honestly advise you to look at it at another prospective for a moment.

1. He CAN NOT control what his family does. That is beyond his control and you should NOT hold him accountable for anothers actions.

2. There are NO garuntees in the trucking industry. Recruiters can sware and promiss all the stuff they want but no one is garunteed anything in this field of work.

3. Your husband is out there ALONE. There is no support on the road. No one is watching his back. No one is keeping him safe. Many people have died in this line of work! And contrary to sterio stypes there is a whole lot MORE than just driving a truck in this line of work!!

4. Being an OTR Driver is NOT just a job. It is a life style. It seems that there was NOT enough investigating or enough education about what this life entails and requires from everyone that is involved.

Before you are ready to throw your hands up in the air and give it up. I would suggest you take the time to understand and embrace what your husband is going through and having to deal with. The first year being OTR is the worst but it does get better and easier as some of the better companies that require more experience become available. As far as him being able to make it home. Please know that drivers are only allowed 11 hours of driving time in a day. Their 14 hour clock does not mean that they can actually drive for 14 hours a day. (Especially if they are having to run legal) There are ALOT of rules and regulations that they are REQUIRED to follow.

We all want our drivers home at some point or another, the reality of this is though that it is not as simple as just driving home.

Apr 16, 2011
trucker marriages
by: Anonymous

Get out of this marraige while you are still young. I was in a 31 year marriage and was just told that I wasn't wanted anymore. Hubby started driving truck and now doesn't want to be with me anymore. Save yourself a lot of heartache and start over while you are young enough to go back to college, switch careers, or just find yourself. You have a lot on your plate right now. Threaten him with custody. Sometimes that brings men around.

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