How to deal with a egotistical one-sided very angry husband

I don't know where to begin or start this conversation but here goes. My husband has been driving OTR now for a little over a year & we are not newly married.


We are married 35 years & I have always been a loving supportive wife. The last time he got home time in April all was well with us. He asked me a question over the phone when I was busy doing something & I gave him the wrong answer, one that he didn't want to hear. Well I was willing to apologize & for him to do the same.

Now this argument & disagreement has been going on for over a week & I am willing to forgive, forget, & have life go on. But no my husband has to keep this crap up & even sending me harassing messages that he is quitting his job. No more pay, no more medical benefits & so when I ignore him thinking he is going to cool down, he sends me msgs saying if he doesn't hear from me in so amount of time, he is going to have the wi-fi & phones turned off.

He is even going as far as he will stop direct deposit of his check. Now something happened anywhere after Mother's Day till a week ago because when he called & wished me a Happy Mother's Day, he asked when Father's Day was & I told him & he said ok he will put in for home time then.

Well he messages me & said he would not be home next week, he said why should he come home when he is walking off the job the end of the month & he feels because he is paying the bills I should do whatever he wants & asks both out of the bedroom & in the bedroom.

When he acts this way, I have told him he is upsetting me & making me have anxiety attacks & he says good & I even told him he is upsetting the kids & he said good on that too. He is 60 years old & I have never seen him act this way & my one child is physically & mentally disabled & he is very upset by this behavior.

My question is & of course he will never give me an answer, but he either has someone out there on the side or he is getting influenced & persuaded by his trucker friends!

Also he just text me telling me his iPad just broke. He has anger issues that he has a history of throwing things & breaking his things when he does not get his way or when things are beyond his control.

He no longer calls us, do facetime or skype. My kids don't care if he calls us or what have you! My one even said to me hopes he stays out on the road forever & never comes home! Really nice!

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Oct 25, 2015
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by: Anonymous

I am sorry about these idiots that have commented on you problem. He is an abuser ma'am plain and simple. He is self centered and figures he is entitled to a lot that he has not added to. I have a husband like this. He has a huge ego....is self centered...uncaring and a pity pot poor me "man" if you want to call him that. I don't think counciling helps these kinds of men as they are not hearing, seeing or caring. It all YOUR fault ...let me guess. A pitiful excuse for manhood. He is not accountable. I am sure he dislikes his job.....I would too, but to project that anger on to you is inexcusable. Who wants to have sex with him??? Some prostitute for pay. He is emotionally unavailable and frankly stupid. It is hard to believe in my case that a married such a stupid man. My husband is 66 and thinks 21 year old girls are attracted to him....: / Really sweetie. I am sorry to inform you that he is a lost soul.

Jun 12, 2014
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by: Anonymous

It sounds like he hates his jod and is traped needs the money and thinks u are full ing around , and a little bypoler get him on meds hope this helps

Jun 11, 2014
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by: Anonymous

To the person who is commenting on this post.

Not all truckers are egotistical??? It seems you are labeling all people then?? So that makes you just as egotistical as the truckers....

To the poster, maybe your husband is going through the change, just like us women go through the change so do all men.....look at the symptoms and you will see it can be just as bad for men as it is for women....

Jun 08, 2014
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by: Anonymous

R mad at your husband for listing to his friends but our doing the same thing he's doing ya both need to tell ya friends to stay out of your marriage and maybe thing well get better

Jun 08, 2014
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by: Anonymous

To the commentor, you seem to have issues yourself when people post things more than once & differently! If you don't like it, then you need to not get into this site. My friends were right about truckers being egotistical jerks & that truckers have a whole different perspective & personality! My friends also were right when they said a trucker's job sucks! And they are glad they are not married to 1 of these types! I will keep posting!

Jun 08, 2014
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To the commentor, you seem to have issues yourself when people post things more than once & differently! If you don't like it, then you need to not get into this site. My friends were right about truckers being egotistical jerks & that truckers have a whole different perspective & personality! My friends also were right when they said a trucker's job sucks! And they are glad they are not married to 1 of these types! I will keep posting!

Jun 08, 2014
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by: Anonymous

How many times and diffrent ways are you going to post this either work thing out or split up . If all he want is sex when he gets home you should be welling to give it to him that way he don't have to or think about getting it else where and ya should go see marriage counselor

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