How much are we entitled to know about their day?
I have been a truckers wife for 32 years, we have 3 kids and 1 grandchild together. He got caught cheating 15 years ago and during that time we sought counseling, talked and he admitted to having not one affair but 3.
The first two were short term but the last one last a year. Vowed never to do it again blah blah blah. never wore a wedding ring till then and he agreed to wear his. recently or 3 years ago he spent his entire 401K to become an owner operator.
I didn't want him to, he had a short experience with that once during the same time of his affair and God did not bless his plan and he had one major set back after another. Had 2 accidents which were both written as his fault. long story short, he or I should say WE had to file bankruptcy. We had no personal bills other than a mobile home payment. it was all his business bills.
So I told him I was very much against him doing this at age 52. He did it anyway and during that same week my mom suddenly passed away and he went out of town to pick up his truck her bought. I do not and have never liked staying by myself at night and had never until all our kids have left home this past August, I still hate it but I have it to do so there is no need fighting it.
He is very abusive if I ask him questions about where he is going or where he has been. He says and has always said I'm not his mama and he's a grown gd man and doesn't have to answer to anyone. well I recently got him to get an iphone and installed find my iphone on it.
He has a lot of times he's stopped for long periods at rest areas and truck stops when he is in route. he says he's napping but he stops at night at 9-9:30 and doesn't start again till 8:30 - 9:00 the next morning but will be stopped again at noon till 4 and it was after one of these stops I asked him why he needed a nap of 4 hours after only driving 2 hours and only 1 1/2 hour from home. he lost it when he found out i had the app on his phone, took my phone away from me, beat me with my own purse, broke both my rx glasses, then went to get the shotgun. I ran out into the yard, it was dark and hid behind my school bus tire. he fired the gun. I didn't know until later it only had one shell in it or he would have continued to hunt me.
I ran through the woods and went to the only neighbor for 2 miles. we live in a very rural area and not many live on our road. my neighbor wasn't home so I hid in the woods until she came home. I called 911 and they came and searched the property and said they couldn't find him. I explained he was there somewhere because he had not left in any of the automobiles.
I came to the house with them to search inside and after a quick run though they said if you hear from him give us a call? I ran and got in my van and left before they did. I went and got our 29 year old son to come here with me and found his daddy. he was in one of his cars on top of his truck. things have only gotten worse since then.
He says he is doing nothing wrong and then I find out he spent two hours in a restaurant with 2 other married men last week at a titty bar. He said there is nothing wrong with it. He says I'm just a B**** and am tracking him.
Is it wrong for me to expect to know where he is and when he is going to be stopped for more than 30 minutes?