How can I get him to go to the doctor?
My boyfriend and I recently moved to Portland, OR together so that he could move from otr to regional.
For some context, we started dating in college 3 years ago. After graduation, we went back home (him in Maine, me in California). He started driving otr so we could see each other more often, 2 1/2 years ago.
He decided to join a flatbed company when we moved because he wanted to get some extra exercise in and break up his day a little more. The problem is, he was a collegiate football player and had sustained injuries in college prior to even starting driving.
Now that he's strapping and tarping most days of the week, his injuries are flaring up to the point where he's in constant pain, even on the weekends when he's home.
This is after 5 months of flatbedding. He's planning on leaving the company because of the pain he's in, but in the interim, he refuses to go see a doctor to get his injuries checked out.
We know that he's going to need surgery eventually, but I'm afraid that in this last month before he switches, he's going to injure himself even further, to the point where he won't be able to work at all.
I want him to at least see a doctor to find out what is going on with his injuries. He consistently tells me that either we can't afford it or that there isn't any time, since he's gone all week.
Does anyone have any advice as to how to get him to see that he's hurting us in the long run? His pain and exhaustion is taking its toll on our relationship, too. He's angry and grumpy because he hurts all the time, and I'm upset because I can't help him.