He resents me for being home, and assumes I do nothing all week.
I work 3 of 4 weekends, and he works Sun night through late Friday most weeks. Sometimes he stops in for a shower or nap when home crosses his path.
Always pleasant at home, and everything is great. But then I get text messages about how while he is working like crazy I am home getting nothing done around the house. Mind you we have a very hair dog and it's summer, so an hour after vacuming there will be more hair.
Also have a 6 year old whose main talent is making a mess. And on top of the usual house chores I am doing a DIY wedding that is about a month away, so that's time consuming.
I've never been one to have a spotless home, but there are always clean dishes and clothes, food in the fridge, bills paid on time, yard work, being a mother, etc. So it might have been beautiful just 2 hours before he shows up, which I can never plan on, but by the time he walks in there is jelly on the table, a pile of laundry needing folding, and wedding crap covering the counter I'm trying work on.
He is all smiles, hugs and kisses. But when he's gone he claims nothing is ever done when he's home as soon as we argue. It's like "male refrigerator blindness".
Now he's giving me the silent treatment since I said we'd have an experiment to see what the house would look like after a week of me doing nothing. Childish I know, but I can't figure out if he just has super high standards (never used to). Or if he is being resentful of my home time, and pictures me in my sweats on the couch watching tv all week. Should I actually do the housework boycott so he can see how much of an ass he is being? Or just try and become June Clever mixed with Rosie the Riveter? Any advice? ANY?