Girlfriend of a long haul truck driver...how to cope

My boyfriend and I have been together for 15 months and have been living together for the last 6 months.

I just picked him up today and within three hours he got a call to back to work to take a load to Little Rock. I don't know if I can do this anymore.

Since May 18th he has been home 3 days, which we spent with his kids and his ex wife. I did go with him last Friday when he did some local stuff and then on Saturday he had to pull some trailers so I went with him, I wanted to go this time but with time constraints we couldn't go home I just had to take him back to his truck.

I try and be as supportive as possible and I love what he does, he is great at his job, driving with him I got a different perspective on what he really does.

The problem is, I just miss him so much, I am unemployed and currently looking for work, and I know once I start working again things for me will be better, or would they?

How do you cope with the missing him so much? I know his ex told me do like she did, open the marriage because she was tired of being alone all the time and he was gone so much and she had needs.

I refuse to open our relationship and he is in agreement. I don't want to be with anyone else, I want him, I just don't know if I am cut out to be a truckers girlfriend......

Any advice would be appreciated

Thanks so much

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Apr 08, 2016
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Wife of trucker NEW
by: Anonymous

14 years together. All but two years he was long haul trucking. Married recently. I miss him. We got married at church and talk daily and say goodnight and plan holidays and no time to fight. Looking forward to retirement. I am very involved in women's church groups and work. Praying Jesus putting him first we more than survive. Yes it is hard if phone dies and toilet breaks but walk thru over phone and we give each other full attention and he helps around house every other weekend And at least two weeks a year vacation. Like any marriage hard but I look at we don't complain about messy house. We set our priorities together and view bills. My friends wish their hubby was gone more so they could appreciate each other more. You decide what is important. Jesus first family next and hard some but we make known needs and wants. A good marriage

Oct 22, 2013
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new to being a truckers girlfriend also NEW
by: Anonymous

I've been a truckers girlfriend for 2 months now. I'm working part time and planning on going back to college to keep me occupied. I hang out with friends everyday and try to go out every weekend so I'm not sitting alone feeling terrible and lonely. My friends understand if he calls and I have to get up and leave to a different room to talk to him when he calls. Surround yourself with fun, supportive friends and time flies by.

Jan 17, 2013
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long haul NEW
by: Anonymous

you got that right!!!

Jan 17, 2013
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Long Haul Trucking NEW
by: Toby Crane

Honestly, the long haul trucking people are the heart of America. If they do not do it, the country will fail. Thanks for sharing your thoughts.

Jul 27, 2012
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Girlfriend of a long haul truck driver NEW
by: Kat

Good morning

Thank you for all the advice, it is working. I went out with him for some short runs about a month ago, and I LOVED IT, had a blast and a whole new respect for what he does, and it brought us closer, one of the reasons I don't go out with him more is because of interviews.

I am married to my cell phone lol...can't snuggle with it, but when he is home I can. I have also learned not to make any long term plans or short term for that matter, because if for some reason he can't get home, well then I am not disappointed and not mad at him.

I am hoping to be able to go out more with him because we had so much fun and I hadn't laughed so much in such a long time, it was fun, I thought watching him back his tuck up was hot, it is nothing compared to watching him drive. Lol yeah he thinks I am crazy....lol

Everyone have a great day!
Kat

Jul 17, 2012
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Always helps to know your not alone NEW
by: misty and jason

Ive been with my trucker for about 14 months. He is amazing, I have went on the road with him, he is home about 1 weekend a month, if that. We are NOT opening up our relationship, when you love someone, you dont want to fool with anyone, hense, thats why she is his EX wife.. I am a soon to be wifey, we dont have kids, but we have pets and im not cut to LIVE on the road for my life, a month or so is enuff, and thats fine with me. I live for the phone calls, and make things as easy as possible for him, I think we talk a good 5-6 hrs a day of not more! Just stick it out if that is your man, but when he goes to see his kids, you need to be a part of it, to be a part of ALL of his life!

Jun 22, 2012
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Go with him! NEW
by: Sarah

If you're unemployed with no kids, how come you can't go with your boyfriend on his truck while he works all the time?? If he's a company driver, he has to get special permission for you to go with him. Going with him is my 1st answer to you. 2nd is get a good cell phone plan with good coverage and skype online. Missing your man is a KILLER, I know!! My husband's been an over-the-road trucker for 3 years now and missing them is awful!! I live for the phone calls. I'll be going with my husband next week after he comes home so I'm SUPER DUPER excited!!!! Hang in there, girl.....if you really love the guy, it's amazing what you can go through!

Jun 22, 2012
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Good for you!! NEW
by: Helonwheels

You seem to be speaking from the heart and that says you are in the right place in your mind. This is important to keep the sanity.

Me and my trucker guy love sports all of them, so many hours are spent watching, listening, talking about them by phone and at home. I am so lucky we are that compatible. He especially respects me for all my volunteer work which in turn gives us a lot more things to talk about. :)

Never a dull moment! lol
And no time for loneliness.

Have a nice day too!
Helonwheels :)

Jun 22, 2012
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Girlfriend of a long haul truck driver...how to cope NEW
by: Anonymous

Thank you both for your kind words and welcome into this crazy, unpredictable world I now find myself so wrapped up in.

It is funny you mentioned being married to the cell phone, we have cell phone dates. Last November his home town football team and mine played against each other and I had planned this romantic weekend get away planned, I had to cancel the hotel reservations and all the other plans and we "watched" the game together, he in his truck in Louisiana and me here in Texas in our apartment.

I am so very grateful he is working I know how many people are looking for work, me being one of them and when I get lonely, or disappointed, I always say it is better then him not working.

Thank you again and I am sure I will be seeking more advice.

Have a wonderful day

Jun 22, 2012
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by: Anonymous

I don't think any of us trucker wives go through our lives without feeling at some point in time, like we aren't cut out to be a trucker's wife, because your apart from your husband more than your together. Welcome to our world of loneliness. Your just a girl friend right now, so you still have a choice. If you can be married to a cell phone, get married.

Jun 22, 2012
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Dear How To Cope NEW
by: Helonwheels

You seem to be doing all the right things and your boyfriend seems to be doing all the right things. In these economic hard times he and you are very lucky he has a job.

I know you stated that you are looking for work and that you are lonely. There are so many places that need just plan help, especially where all the more lonely people live. Volunteer at these local places while you are waiting for your call backs. Heck after a while you just might like helping out people who are less fortunate then you. Heck a job just might come out of it too! Might not pay much but it is very rewarding.

Maybe when you begin to see what others have to go through to just eat and survive on the lonely streets, heck you might just appreciate your life a lot more! :)

Good Luck in your job hunting, stay strong, help out others, thank God for what you have and things will turn out okay wait and see.

Helonwheels :)

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