Good dating and relationship information is necessary for your happiness as a truck driver and the wife/spouse of a truck driver. Life as a trucker doesn't allow much room for incompatible couples.
If you are single and are considering becoming a truck driver, I highly recommend you read all of this dating and relationship information before you go and get involved with someone. It may be in your best interest to stay single until you get your 1st year of experience.
Your first year is with a company that is likely to keep you out for a month at a time.
On top of that, you are new to EVERYTHING. Bottom line is this....the trucking lifestyle is difficult already. The unpredictability in the first year for a new driver makes it even worse.
Not having history with a person makes it worse still because you don't know each other well yet.
My theory is take out all of the complications and distractions (read as strain) you can for both.
After that year you know what to expect of the trucking lifestyle and can communicate that better.
Plus if you are not happy at that company, you can probably go to a company that treats you better including getting you home. Happier you, easier on the relationship.

Relationship Information

If you are already involved, this relationship information is for you. It takes a special spouse to make a good companion for a truck driver. Just like it takes a good person to be a faithful trucker.

Keep in mind the stereotypical image most people have of truck drivers. (Having girlfriends across the states, picking up women, being fat and nasty, no telling what else)

Now. Knowing this, what type of spouse do you have and how is the relationship between you two? (Is there good communication, trust, sex, openness?)

If these are problem areas you may have more problems if you decide to become a truck driver.

Also what about her as an individual? Is she self confident, independent to a certain extent, out going, trust worthy, responsible.

If she doesn't posses at least most of those characteristics she may not be the type of person that would make a good spouse to a truck driver. "Why?", You say.

Well, if your spouse does not posses those characteristics then she may start doubting you on the road. There will at some point be unexplainable (I should say unbelievableat least to the person hearing not having been out on the road) situations will that occur. She will need to trust you and be understanding during those times. If she is easily persuaded by her friends or if she already had doubts about your infidelity before you became a trucker driver you will start to have problems. They will continue to escalate as time goes on.

But wait, you too have to be understanding to to see it from her point of view. Getting upset at her (even if she is wrong) is not going to help her understand. Making her stop asking questions or talking about it is not going to erase the doubt in her mind either. Again I say to you. The type of person your spouse is matters. I hope you can tell that by now. Not only in a truckers life but in life, period.

If she never believes you then it may show in her attitude and now there's doubt in your mind about what she's doing too. (See how easily this could just erode into two people going through the motions but losing interest in each other)

Note:All of this could have started because you lost a phone signal for during several of her calls in the middle of the day. Sprint has problems on the AA highway in West Virgina. There are some pockets West of I-35 where you will lose signal strength, going through Kentucky at places you will loose signal strength. On the I-10 Bridge in Louisiana for some strange reason the phone drop calls also.

If you to have trust issues and she hasn't witnessed incidents you will encounter first hand, she is not likely to believe you. Especially after 2 or 3 incidents of question.

Dating Information

Dating is less of a problem theoretically because it assumes that the relationship is more casual. The key to dating as a trucker is being up front and letting your intentions be know from the start. Of, course that would also mean that the other person should be up front and straight forward from the start also. No agenda to change things in the relationship and no games on either side. If each person is straight and let the other know what type of relationship they want to establish things could be very manageable.

(BUT: How likely is it to find this in today's culture?) However, you and I both know that things can change and then what? You start with the same problems as if you were in a more serious relationship. Because of this, you decide to give an inch and the spouse wants a foot. You are still stressed out because now your on different pages.

If you are going to date or be in a relationship while you are a truck driver. You need to check the characteristics of the partner that you will be dealing with. You are going to suffer if you deal with a partner that is . . .

- is self Centered
- has low self esteem
- is selfish
- has never traveled away from home
- easily influenced by others
- very flirtatious (that is if you yourself has low self esteem!)
- has a history of infidelity

Best dating and relationship advice I can give

1. If you insist on dating or being in a relationship during your first year of driving, carefully look at the quality of the person you are dealing with don't settle for a person that is not compatible with you and your intentions to become a truck driver.

2. If it is possible, after truck driving school take your spouse with you on the road for a few weeks. This way, hopefully some of those moments will occur which she won't have to wonder about when you try to explain them to her while your are on the road and he or she is at home.

3. The spouse at home should get involved I some kind of productive hobby or activity. (OH, yes kids do count!) If you are serious and plan on being a couple then it may be smart for her to take classes about transportation industry like dispatching or getting motor carriers authority or anything that could provide value should you decide to make bigger moves in the trucking industry.

Who knows you might want to take your ambitions to running your own trucking company. What she learns could help you two to make an informed decision on how far you want to take your venture in the the trucking industry.

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