Cell phone texting

A lot of the truckers download porn and jokes on their cell phones and send them out to others they relate too. And I was wondering if other women are having trouble accepting this behavior and if so how do they deal with it?

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Jan 23, 2011
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Just deal with it.
by: Anonymous

No matter what there's always those men who think they need to do these things to be a man. My husband pisses me off by making comments and saying he can't help it if his friends send them. I just make him think I get them too. He gets real jealous and I feel much better.

Dec 21, 2010
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Hold Him Accountable.
by: Mrs. Ma

Hold him accountable for what sort of "forward" he exposes you to. He knows when to watch his mouth, & he can choose to edit what his txts bring into his life. When my husband gets one of those, he shares the funny or gross ones with me, so we can say "eew"- or laugh- together. When his friends send him some pornographic woman ogling pics, he says "I don't know why they send me this shit", & deletes it right then. That's what he does in front of me, because I've told him that makes me feel respected. Whether that's what he does other times I don't care. As long as he doesn't save it in his phone with our family photos like it's something he wants. I know men well enough that I realize that's probably not always what he's really thinking, but he can have the courtesy to humor me.-It's not a lie, its done out of love. I also turn my back when he gets a txt, to give him half a chance to do this effectively. He knows, because I've told him, that the thought of him admiring another woman makes my stomach ache, just as his would if he thought of another man touching me.

Nov 18, 2010
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texting junk
by: Hervy

I am sure this is not a problem with truckers but with people in general. Look around at society, it's desensitized to the extent that equivalent representation of porn or inappropriate behavior is injected in mainstream stories including news so it's no wonder so many people get caught up in that cycle.

Having said that, there are two different scenarios that come to mind with what your asking. If your literally talking porn, that may be a serious problem, an addiction in fact. Which could easily lead do infidelity and a lot of wasted time watching videos too. If this the case sounds like a need for counseling.

If your talking jokes and pictures it may be just a problem with taste but not addiction. Not that I never got an xrated pic from someone before but I can't remember the last time.

No one would send that to me like that, because they know I don't care for wasting time with it.

If a person in a relationship blows off or justifies an issue that the other person is seriously concerned about it doesn't speak well of that person if you ask me. Of course, I guess that would matter a little with the personalities of the couple, if both people never take what the other complains about seriously that is a different story.

I just don't see this going on if it was a part of my relationship. Now I must say...if the guys you and Lea are talking about are passive about everything or avoids confrontation then it's poses less of a problem.

They just have friends with poor taste and don't want to tell them to stop it. If this is the case, I would tell you just not to worry about it, if your relationship is otherwise fine and he is attentive, loving and caring.

But I am pretty sure you know if he actually is enjoying and encouraging the behavior. Also if he see's himself as a player, doesn't show you attention, etc.

If the later is that case, don't just allowing foolishness to linger on. Have a serious discussion about your relationship to see if will be treated better or decide to continue to be mistreated.

Reality is not always pleasant to deal with, but it's best to deal with it then to be in denial about the truth when it comes to your life. Look at the big picture and be honest with him and yourself, in the end only you are in the best position to determine what is most likely to be true about your reality.

Best of luck to both of you

Nov 16, 2010
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Im told......
by: Lea

Im not real keen on the forwards that are naked women and such. I have more of an issue when other women send them to my Fiance. That he says he understands why its not approciate but also told he can't control what other people do. I agree to a certain extent on that but i feel that he could text them back and ask them not to. When it comes to other truckers (and friends who are male) I am told that its just how they talk to eachother. So I take it as "deal with it cuz its not going to stop".
Personally i think texting is the most destructive form of communication there is for relationships. It is the least trackable.

Nov 16, 2010
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Im told......
by: Lea

Im not real keen on the forwards that are naked women and such. I have more of an issue when other women send them to my Fiance. That he says he understands why its not approciate but also told he can't control what other people do. I agree to a certain extent on that but i feel that he could text them back and ask them not to. When it comes to other truckers (and friends who are male) I am told that its just how they talk to eachother. So I take it as "deal with it cuz its not going to stop".
Personally i think texting is the most destructive form of communication there is for relationships. It is the least trackable.

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