I am not sure that it sounds like your selling a car--but our future, and I am buying! lololol. But then it seems as if in most philosophies in life, you and I have not only taken the same boat--but sharing turns on the oar.
Oct 17, 2008 Rating
Amen by: The Crazy Trucker
Couldn't have broken it down better myself.
And you hit on very key point that I use when I address the less responsible parent. Your very last paragraph . . .
When you are 70 who is going to take care of you.
Jen, you are the parent who actually won't have to worry about that.
See parents whose focus is more about doing what needs to be done as a parent and raise their children to the best of their ability based on what it is their child needs to be taught to prepare them for the future will find themselves well taken care of when they age.
For 1 their children are more likely to be successful.
2. Their children will see the sacrifices and energy that parent put into trying to do what was best for the child's future. The child will have the deepest gratitude and a sense of obligation for taking care of the parent.
Just like I will do whatever I can for my parents as they age. One of my primary reasons for being successful is so that I can provide for them if they are ever in need.
On the other hand, the parents who are self serving and neglectful of their children and letting them raise themselves or more focus on being their best friend (which is really a selfish act, or completely clueless) is likely to find things a little different. . .
1 The child of this type of parent is less likely to thrive in the real world or thrive at slower pace which could result in the adult not being in he position to take care of the parents in old age.
2. The child of this type of parent may determine that the parent didn't really care about him or her as a child and therefor is not too enthusiastic about taking care of their parent or parents in old age if the need arises.
So parents if you don't care enough or have the vision to be a responsible parent to your child out of love and concern.
Let selfishness guide you into being a good parent by taking into consideration that you may be better taken care of in old age if you are a good parent now.
Sorry I had to put it too you like that but honestly, some of you deserve it and you know it.
You are shaping the future of a life that you brung into this world.
It's a very very very tough job, I understand that but it is your responsibility to your child to not to blow it off but give it all you got.
OK, it sounds like I am trying to sell someone a car or something!