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Apr 15, 2012
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Having trouble adjusting, newbie NEW
by: Cynthia Harris

All i could think of the whole time i read your article was "wow, one day we will be more understanding of each other, and make it work for us". it has givin me hope. Whether i like it or not i have been a truckers wife for 8 months. He started out with weekends here and there or 4 days here or there and then it drastically went to him never getting to come home. I am talking about stretches 2 to 4 weeks long and when he was home he still worked 12 hour days so i still never got to spend time with him. at least quality time anyway. he got fired from that job for our mairrage because i hit a breaking point and they were gonna send him to north Dakota for at least 3 weeks. now hes driving for mcelroy in ennis texas. he'll be home every weekend and once they get him in a truck he may even be home during the week. I am glad he found something that good and reasonable. i just have to adjust. maybe me finding a job will help after all. at least till we have kids. its just us right now and i am always getting lonely. I have already been commended by him lol. that was because i was doing everything and taking care of a 2 year old nephew who basically needed a second parent. I know he appreciates me. I just want more quality time with him when he is home. or have myself devote weekends to him and cooking which i know he already misses.

Oct 24, 2011
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Bulls eye
by: Joe(aka Coolbreeze

You answered alot of what has been flowing threw my mind for last 7yrs since I started driving. I love being a pro driver (the open road,the hrs,freedom, money, not having the boss over ur back every 5 min, differnt people everyday not the same old smae old like with a 9-5 job) But my wife doesn't see it the same way I do. We fought time and time again. I started missing home alot too back in 08 when my lil girl was born. My wife always told me I don't love her and that I don't know how to show it. So one day after a 1 1/2 long talk with her on the cellie. I went in side the Pilot T/S I was at to use the lil boys room on my way out. I saw they had books so I was looking and it was like the book fell in my lap. "HOW TO SHOW A WOMAN LOVE" So I started to read it then I htought u know what I can't read this alone so I call my wife back up and started to read it with her over the phone. Took a while for things to at least claim down. weeks later she told me she baught a book. Thought nothing of it.Til I got home n saw it. It was"WHO TO SHOW A MAN LOVE" Writen by the Husband of the author of my book lol kinda weird but we went with the flow and changed on and off reading to one another while I was away. I just picked up another book a yr ago "SEX,MONEY AND KIDS THE THREE THINGS COUPLE FIGHT ABOUT" So were working on those issues as well. She don't like what I do 4 a living but has long has I give her the attention she deserves and give her a vacation from the kids when I get home she said she'll deal with it. She said because your good and it you know what your doing your heart is in it just has long has your heart is more into our marriage then it's ok.

Jul 03, 2011
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Nail on the head
by: Emmah Hackbarth

You hit the nail on the head and I'm so glad you had your epiphany before she called it quits or asked you to come off the road.

My husband, Randy, can squeeze more fun and loving in an 8-24 hour layover than I thought was possible and it makes ALL THE DIFFERENCE in the success of our marriage. Even if he's out 2-3 weeks he'll call and go over every wonderful moment we had together. He keeps the romance alive and tells me everyday that he's a lucky man.

We keep it real though because, in reality, we both need alot of personal space in our relationship and trucking provides that space. We can appreciate and offer support to each other without stepping on each others toes.

Sep 26, 2010
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Amazing
by: Dottie

Kieth you are a rare man, who is not ashamed to profess his love for his wife.
You two have a wonderful relationship. It makes all of us who do not have that kind of relationship envy you and at the same time wonder just what we are missing.
You are an inspiration to all husbands, if they would only read your story.
Your wife Jen is a sweetheart. She loves you as much as you love her. Her advise is wonderful and to the point.
Thank you both for your advise.
Congrats on the new job that allows you to be home.

God Bless You Both

Jul 30, 2010
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thanks
by: chanda

thanks for what you said. i hope that my trucker appriciates me . sometimes i wonder. its hard because he drives otr and we live in two differnt states. so we dont see eachother as often as i would like. i tend to worry about him when i dont hear from him . he mainly drives along the east coast .

Jul 17, 2010
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local drivng
by: bob

hi there,

i read your piece and its very moving. I hear you loud and clear. Congrats on making it all work for you guys.

I was wondering maybe if you drove local you could have more home time? Im thinking your running regional right?

What wireless you find the best when your out on the road? (just an off the wall question).

Best of luck friend.

Jul 04, 2010
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awwwwe!
by: Ashley

That is so sweet. It kind of reminds me of my boyfriend (David) he is great guy, sometimes he forgets some of what you said but he always finds a way to make up for it. You two are inspirational, I'm going to share this with him when we talk tomorrow. He is sitting waiting on a load, I think he would enjoy hearing it. Thanks for sharing!

Nov 16, 2009
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Hope my husband has the epiphany you did!!
by: Anonymous

I'm so happy for your relationship! You sound like a great guy and you have a lucky wife. I know my husband will never see this, which is too bad. He doesn't do OTR, but he drives line haul (third shift) from a terminal that is 1 and 1/2 hours from our home. So when he's not driving he's sleeping. He will go for days without seeing the kids sometimes because he misses them in the morning and sometimes at night when he leaves, too.We have five kids, his first three from his first marriage and our two. I am the single mom all week and the weekend. My husband, unfortunately, is very selfish and doesn't want to reconnect with me on the one day he's home. He wants to be by himself, for the most part, do what he wants, when he wants to and doesn't want to or have the energy to help me do anything or just have fun with us. I guess it's unfair to expect him to do much on his one day off, but I don't get any days off, just the lonely nights...

Anyway, your post gives me a shred of hope that my husband might realize what he has at home, too, someday, because the last few weeks especially have been really unhappy. Happy holidays-hope you get some time off to be home with your best friend!

Jan 21, 2009
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Thank you
by: April

Very well written! It takes a genuine man to notice what you did and realize that the "trucker" isn't the only one in the relationship to be commended. I truly hope that someday my trucker has the same epiphany. Thank you for making light of the "other half."

Dec 23, 2008
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What an awesome example for truckers
by: Anonymous

You guys are toooo cute!

This should be a great inspiration for anyone having relationship problems, but especially for truckers to know that they can be happier and grow a strong relationship with a little more understanding.

God Bless and Merry Christmas

Oct 19, 2008
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Thank you Wordman
by: Jennifer Schnittker

I know it seems a bit self-serving to reply to your post, but I wanted to say thank you. Its nice to be appreciated at home! Sometimes we all forget to say the simplest of things in a relationship.
1.) Thank you
2.) I am sorry
3.) I appreciate you.

When people look at their relationships, and wonder where it went wrong. If they actually recount the times they have said the above statements, they will be amazed at the lack of times they have literally said those words.

Most assume the other "knows". Listen, we dont have E.S.P, therefore cannot read someones thoughts. To literally say it, and make sure that the person knows that the giver of those statements is truly sincere can make all the difference in the world.

I wonder how many wives are told on a daily basis (a whisper in their ear from their significant others) You are beautiful, or you are my life. Probably not many, because we forget to express our feelings to those we love.

It makes a huge difference, and even to me! I have to say, it brings me to tears at times, an unexpected "wow, the house looks awesome", or "do you know how much I appreciate everything you do for me?".

Thank you Wordman, for being THAT man

I love you!
Angel ;)

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